"Am I OK?"
Most of us are constantly asking ourselves that question in our lives.
It might not always be conscious, but at some level we're holding ourselves up to a yardstick to see if we measure up.
I caught myself doing that just this morning. But this time, some wiser internal voice called bullshit on me.... See More
As I write this, I’m sitting in the Cardiovascular Center of a large medical complex in northern New Jersey, waiting to see my mother, who has just survived open heart surgery.
Two new valves – one cow, one pig – now reside in her heart, replacing the ones that were initially damaged during an episode of strep throat that went untreated when she was a young woman.
Waiting through something like this is hard – knowing your loved one is down a long hallway from you, chest split open, her life literally in someone else’s hands.
But while I could have clamped down in fear this morning, something about the experience instead invited me to risk opening up my own heart.... See More
When I first started seeing coaching clients, I discovered that some people have a huge misconception about what it takes to get great results from coaching.
Many people thought that the magic was in finding the right coach.
Certainly that's important. You want someone who's skilled. You want someone you can really connect with. And you want someone whose style and experience are a good fit for you and your situation.
But that's not the magic ingredient.... See More
I'm visiting friends in Sonoma this week, and I'm up before dark again today, my internal clock still on Virginia time.
Sipping tea in my friends' cozy living room, listening to the sounds of distant roosters and the gently trickling fountain outside, I've been flipping through my journal, reading recent entries.
In looking through what I've written of late, I was struck by how my use of this tool has shifted over the years — and by how indispensable it's become for me as a productivity tool at work.
I admit, it's a little surprising:
When you think of getting your work done in a way that's efficient and strategic, the first image that comes to mind is not of settling down with a bound journal, a pen, and a mug of tea, and writing longhand about how you're feeling and what you're thinking.
But I've discovered that is sometimes the smartest thing I can do.
Here's why... ... See More
